Get a 30-day exit plan before the next email, filing, or hearing.
High-conflict divorce coaching on Zoom for clients in the US and Canada. I help you stop the reactive emails, organize the file, and show up prepared
CDC Certified Divorce Coach®. Five-year high-conflict case. Self-represented trial. Court of Appeal.
Coach Oscar
Real-World Experience
Tactical Strategy - Zero Fluff.
I didn't study high-conflict divorce in a classroom. I lived it across a grueling 5-year battle that included a 2-day trial where I self-represented—drafting all my own materials from start to finish—in a case that ultimately went to the Court of Appeal.
The Realities Most People Learn Too Late:
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Advice from friends and family is often counterproductive and accidentally fuels the fire.
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Divorce is multi-layered: it hits your emotional, financial, social, and legal life all at once.
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Reactivity and emotional venting compound the damage, creating costly delays and unnecessary exposure.
Having lived through narcissistic dynamics firsthand, and after dedicating hundreds of hours to analyzing high-conflict behavioral patterns and real client cases, I bring a deep understanding of both the theory and the lived reality of these personalities. Traditional approaches often misread covert manipulation and unintentionally lead you into traps.
Where I Come In: As a CDC Certified Divorce Coach®, I serve as your operational co-pilot. I show you how to master disciplined communication protocols (BIFF) and prepare with precision—protecting your integrity and preventing the costly missteps I learned the hard way.
Divorcing a Narcissist Is Not Just a Legal Battle.
It’s a Psychological War.
I bridge the gap between legal strategy and real-world execution, giving you the tactical roadmap to get out with your sanity, and integrity intact.
If you are ready to execute, let’s get to work
There’s a Wide, Lonely Gap Between Emotional Support and Legal Advice.
That's Where Transformation Happens
I help you bridge the chaos
The smartest move you'll make before you call your lawyer.
Divorce Support to help you overcome messy divorces and regain control
The truth is, support for anyone navigating a messy divorce is practically nonexistent.
On top of this lack of help, you’re almost guaranteed to receive poor advice that makes an already difficult situation even worse.
We live in a time when it is more insulting to call a bad actor a narcissist than to recognize the harm they inflict.
What Others Say
Ryan H. Cunningham
No fluff, direct clear guidelines for divorce regardless of where you find yourself in the process
Reviewed in the United States on November 15, 2024
Verified Purchase
I picked this book up after I began divorce coaching with Oscar. It served as our "textbook" of sorts throughout our sessions together.
It complemented our sessions well and on its own merit, is an excellent eye-opening no fluff guide to getting through a divorce with the best chances of success (or perhaps the least damage) [...]
I highly recommend this book especially [...]
And if you are in the process, I HIGHLY encourage you to get a divorce coach throughout the divorce process.
Your lawyer is NOT a coach and is not your friend, guide, or anything else [....]
Dia
I want to convey my profound gratitude for the invaluable assistance and encouragement Oscar provided me during the most trying period of my life. His expertise and capabilities shone through every step of the transition.
I strongly recommend engaging a divorce mentor like Oscar, regardless of your location in my case, Texas [...]
We require a seasoned guide and confidant like Oscar to depend on and focus on the road ahead. It is not solely about legal counsel but also about the emotional and psychological strain accompanying divorce.
Oscar's transparency and trustworthiness provided me with a sense of security. If you are presently grappling with the hurdles of divorce and feeling inundated, I implore you to seek Oscar's support.
He will steer you through the process with compassion and empathy. Thank you, Oscar, for all your assistance.
Ben Pingel
Oscar has been an incredible support and resource for me during one of the most challenging times in my life.
Navigating my divorce felt overwhelming, confusing, and isolating, but Oscar’s guidance has been truly life-changing.
His expertise in understanding narcissism and teaching me how to handle it has given me the clarity and confidence I needed to move forward.
After our first session, I cried for a half hour because I was so relieved to finally understand what was happening.
For the first time in a long time, I felt a sense of hope.
Thanks to Oscar, I feel empowered and equipped with the tools to work through difficult situations. He is kind, empathetic, and truly listens, which has made all the difference in my journey.
I cannot recommend Oscar enough to anyone who is navigating a high-conflict divorce or seeking clarity and empowerment in the process. Thank you, Oscar, for helping me regain control and hope for my future!
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